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Dealbreakers
I love advice columns. Perhaps because I love to give advice myself, or for the rubbernecking opportunities, but I spend a few minutes over my lunch most days reading what Margo, Meredith, Miss Manners and yes, even the ersazt Prudence have to say. From their columns I occasionally follow other links with Cosmo-like titles like "3 Women Not to Date" or "What Your Man Really Wants for Christmas". They're occasionally good for a giggle and give me a little clue about what the media has to say about relationships these days.
Today's entry is 5 Things Men Do You Didn't Know were Dealbreakers for Women and I have to admit that all of these things have bothered me in various relationships and how we've dealt with them, or failed to, have led to breakups.
The five they picked, in case you'd rather not follow the link, are:
1) Gaping - ogling other women in front of one's date
2) Commitment-Phobia, which they see indicated by failing to keep in touch and show up on time
3) Goofball - failing to recognize that silliness should be balanced by seriousness
4) Hygiene
5) Boredom
It made me curious: are these dealbreakers for you? I'm interested in hearing from both women and men. Is there a common one from your experience that didn't make the list? Is it the issue itself that's a problem, or the failure to deal with it after you've raised it? Or are you unlikely to raise issues like these?
Today's entry is 5 Things Men Do You Didn't Know were Dealbreakers for Women and I have to admit that all of these things have bothered me in various relationships and how we've dealt with them, or failed to, have led to breakups.
The five they picked, in case you'd rather not follow the link, are:
1) Gaping - ogling other women in front of one's date
2) Commitment-Phobia, which they see indicated by failing to keep in touch and show up on time
3) Goofball - failing to recognize that silliness should be balanced by seriousness
4) Hygiene
5) Boredom
It made me curious: are these dealbreakers for you? I'm interested in hearing from both women and men. Is there a common one from your experience that didn't make the list? Is it the issue itself that's a problem, or the failure to deal with it after you've raised it? Or are you unlikely to raise issues like these?
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I suspect that #2 and the 'ogling' one are also about disrespect, even if the jealousy is usually borne out of insecurity. (Yes, it is. I've never seen a jealous fit yet that wasn't. An exception might be if a Domme had forbidden a slave to look at anyone else and the slave disobeyed. But that's likely not what Cosmo was angling towards.) Still, I could totally understand that if a person asked their sweetie to not ogle in front of them, and the sweetie does anyway, that such would be a deal-breaker.