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Friends in Boxes
Mar. 2nd, 2013 11:10 amJonathan Carroll posts a lot of things on FB: poems, quotations, snippets from the book he's writing, vignettes from his life in Vienna, extraordinary photos he finds on the web. They're often thought-provoking and sometimes uncanny in their relevance to myself, or the situations of others in my life. I comment sometimes, but mostly figure if something isn't relevant to me then he was talking to someone else that day.
This morning there is an unattributed passage that I'm guessing comes from his own work:
At the end of their relationship she asked if they could still remain friends. His face was expressionless until he said "No. Because we put friends in boxes. You see them once in a while, or even a lot, but still they have their box in your life, their specific place.Their *category.* That's one of the great things about being someone's love-- you have no box in their life because you're part of all their boxes. You're their friend, their lover, their confidante-- all those things. I don't want to be put in one of your boxes and I don't want to shrink you to fit into one of mine."
And while I know what he's getting at, my experience is somewhat different. ( Read more... )
A toast, then, to my lasting friends: the ones who jump out of the box, defy definition, and transcend context. You know who you are, even if Jonathan Carroll doesn't believe you exist.
This morning there is an unattributed passage that I'm guessing comes from his own work:
At the end of their relationship she asked if they could still remain friends. His face was expressionless until he said "No. Because we put friends in boxes. You see them once in a while, or even a lot, but still they have their box in your life, their specific place.Their *category.* That's one of the great things about being someone's love-- you have no box in their life because you're part of all their boxes. You're their friend, their lover, their confidante-- all those things. I don't want to be put in one of your boxes and I don't want to shrink you to fit into one of mine."
And while I know what he's getting at, my experience is somewhat different. ( Read more... )
A toast, then, to my lasting friends: the ones who jump out of the box, defy definition, and transcend context. You know who you are, even if Jonathan Carroll doesn't believe you exist.
