Are you ready?

[lillibet]

The Are You Ready to Be a Parent? quiz is actually not a bad checklist.

Comments

[cz_unit]

Guess not. Drat.

http://www.blogthings.com/areyoureadytobeaparentquiz/results/?result=44

CZ

[bex77]

Huh...I looked at this and thought.."no one will ever be that ready!"

[dpolicar]

(nods) Looks reasonable to me, although "enough money" and "enough time" definitely suffer from lack of definition.

"You are ready to accept any child you have, including a child with a severe mental or physical disability" is a toughie. I'm not 100% convinced anyone can answer that (either way) absent the actual stimulus. But it's definitely a question one should be asking.

"You aren't [..] moody" is interesting.

[plumtreeblossom.livejournal.com]

20% ready. Which is to say, Not Gonna Happen.

I have a very young mother on my f'list who perpetually needles me with "It's not too late!" badgering. I should post my results of this quiz for good and all. :-)

Good News

[kellyjmf.livejournal.com]

I got an 84 which apparently means I'm ready. Which is good because I already am one.

I have found that finding gross things funny REALLY helped in the first six months or so. One of Susan's favorite stories that I tell is of the time she finished nursing, gave me a big smile, and then hurled directly into my cleavage. I'm cracking myself up just thinking about it.

It's good to be easily amused...

[trowa-barton.livejournal.com]

64%
Uh oh

[kissoflife.livejournal.com]

This is of course also quite skewed toward partnered parenting. Support network considerations are included, but I'd like to see some treatment of 'have you thought through how you would handle it if suddenly or intentionally you came to be the primary caregiver'

[pekmez.livejournal.com]

I got a 68%, and many the things I didn't answer yes to were kind of obvious to me as the things that make a rough day sometimes even rougher. Still not ready 3 years into the game, I guess.

For me, the coping with gross and icky things happens roughly as follows: something that seems gross at first becomes everyday, and therefore is no longer gross and then I can deal with it. Diapers for instance - having dealt with them every day for a while, I mostly just stopped thinking they were gross at all. But I'm still perfectly happy to stay arms-length away from other things I do consider gross. Plunging a toilet still involves gritting my teeth...

[melted-snowball.livejournal.com]

I just want to comment that I think it's interesting that straight people who can make babies by sex can still become parents if they have a 0% measure on this axis (and I currently know someone who's probably pretty low on this), while adoption-type agencies would really prefer to have people somewhere 80% or more, presumably.

[I am, luckily, childfree by choice. But if I weren't, well, yeah.]


[Oh, and it's also interesting to think of how this set of expectations has changed over the past 100 years. I wonder how "is ready to be a parent" would have have been defined in 1908; whether it extended much beyond, "is married".

[roozle.livejournal.com]

As far as I could tell, from what I remembered, I was 64% ready to be a parent. Which is better than I expected.