Poly and Preferences

[lillibet]

Psychology Today (yeah, I know, but still) has a series of articles about polyamory today.

New Scientist has a report on a study showing that men actually prefer normal/average women.

Enjoy!

Comments

[chanaleh.livejournal.com]

showing that men actually prefer normal/average women

But the report doesn't say: what does "prefer" mean, or what did the study define it to mean? 'Find more appealing', okay, but: to look at (in terms of pure aesthetics)? To fantasize about taking to bed? Or to imagine *really* taking to bed? I don't think those are necessarily the same thing. I know they mightn't be for me.

[miss-chance.livejournal.com]

Wow. The Psych Today article comes the closest I've ever read to describing exactly how I feel about and have dealt with jealousy. That's really validating to read coming from outside my head.

[lillibet.livejournal.com]

Excellent!

And hey, while I'm communicating with you--I've been thinking about you repeatedly in the past 2-3 days and keep thinking "I should just pick up the phone and call," but I know you're busy-busy. So if you do get a few minutes and would like to have a chat, give me a buzz.

[trowa-barton.livejournal.com]

And they called me weird in high school for having those preferences.

[lillibet.livejournal.com]

Well, you are fairly strange :)

[trowa-barton.livejournal.com]

And yet I'm happy with my taste in women.

[cz_unit]

Oh no, who did they interview?

Edited: Ok, doesn't look too bad. However I like the "bad boy" article. Alex feels that the reason women want the bad boys is because they have different genes that could enhance survival (as opposed to the "good boys" who don't travel and thus have more static genes).

So the goal is to fuck the bad boys, get the unusual genes into your pool, then get the "good boys" to raise the kids.

Best of all worlds. Maybe this is where the jealousy thing came into play...

CZ

Interesting piece

[adric]

Very positive, and yet it links to :

Advice: Do Open Relationships Work?
Hara Estroff Marano advises a couple on the pros and cons of an open relationship.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/index.php?term=pto-4820.html

... which is very negative, mean in spots, and obviously hasn't read the literature or the first piece. Strange.

Re: Interesting piece

[cz_unit]

Yeah I was pretty impressed with that. Guess I need to divorce my wife now. Ah well.

CZ

Re: Interesting piece

[chanaleh.livejournal.com]

I sure as hell wouldn't have categorized that little diatribe as "advising a couple on the pros and cons", as the subtitle does. :-/ Graah!

[hammercock.livejournal.com]

Kind of depressing how many comments to the New Scientist report had to be deleted by the mod. Judging by the ones that remain, I can well imagine what they might have said.