Constructive Criticism
Nov. 12th, 2004 01:09 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lillibetTaking criticism is something I've had to work at most of my life. It's always so clear to me that I was dealing with certain constraints and doing the best that I could under the circumstances and that it's not my fault and no one understands me. So, over time, I've had some major run-ins with certain people and spent a fair amount of time with my face flushed, utterly humiliated because I can't, in fact, fool all the people all the time.
But over time, I've actually come to appreciate it and, remarkably, to learn from it. I wouldn't say it's a pleasant experience, yet, but I keep putting my self and my work out where other people can see it and having friends who are actually honest enough to tell me what they think, even when it's not good, and I find that I am able to believe that they care about the work, and about me, and to hear what they are saying and take it into account the next time around. The fact that I keep risking criticism at least means that I haven't given up on learning to accept it.
And I didn't even get red in the face.
But over time, I've actually come to appreciate it and, remarkably, to learn from it. I wouldn't say it's a pleasant experience, yet, but I keep putting my self and my work out where other people can see it and having friends who are actually honest enough to tell me what they think, even when it's not good, and I find that I am able to believe that they care about the work, and about me, and to hear what they are saying and take it into account the next time around. The fact that I keep risking criticism at least means that I haven't given up on learning to accept it.
And I didn't even get red in the face.
