Dealbreakers
Dec. 14th, 2011 01:06 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lillibetI love advice columns. Perhaps because I love to give advice myself, or for the rubbernecking opportunities, but I spend a few minutes over my lunch most days reading what Margo, Meredith, Miss Manners and yes, even the ersazt Prudence have to say. From their columns I occasionally follow other links with Cosmo-like titles like "3 Women Not to Date" or "What Your Man Really Wants for Christmas". They're occasionally good for a giggle and give me a little clue about what the media has to say about relationships these days.
Today's entry is 5 Things Men Do You Didn't Know were Dealbreakers for Women and I have to admit that all of these things have bothered me in various relationships and how we've dealt with them, or failed to, have led to breakups.
The five they picked, in case you'd rather not follow the link, are:
1) Gaping - ogling other women in front of one's date
2) Commitment-Phobia, which they see indicated by failing to keep in touch and show up on time
3) Goofball - failing to recognize that silliness should be balanced by seriousness
4) Hygiene
5) Boredom
It made me curious: are these dealbreakers for you? I'm interested in hearing from both women and men. Is there a common one from your experience that didn't make the list? Is it the issue itself that's a problem, or the failure to deal with it after you've raised it? Or are you unlikely to raise issues like these?
Today's entry is 5 Things Men Do You Didn't Know were Dealbreakers for Women and I have to admit that all of these things have bothered me in various relationships and how we've dealt with them, or failed to, have led to breakups.
The five they picked, in case you'd rather not follow the link, are:
1) Gaping - ogling other women in front of one's date
2) Commitment-Phobia, which they see indicated by failing to keep in touch and show up on time
3) Goofball - failing to recognize that silliness should be balanced by seriousness
4) Hygiene
5) Boredom
It made me curious: are these dealbreakers for you? I'm interested in hearing from both women and men. Is there a common one from your experience that didn't make the list? Is it the issue itself that's a problem, or the failure to deal with it after you've raised it? Or are you unlikely to raise issues like these?
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Date: 2011-12-15 10:42 pm (UTC)I also agree that while I wouldn't call #2 commitment phobia, the behavior described is unacceptable to me with friends, much less people I am dating.
Hygiene is the most obvious dealbreaker, to me. Beyond that... it's hard to say. I think honesty is probably my biggest issue, but random abandonment (as in, disappearing for days at a time, especially if we were mid-conversation on IM or whatever) was a huge problem in one relationship that I had and has turned into a bit of a trigger for me. But I think that might fall into the #2 taken to extremes category.
Interesting topic. I've been thinking about it a lot.